Looking beautiful for your life and career

Monday 10 September 2007 at 9:00 pm September 10, 2007 A reply to an e-mail.

About Looking Beautiful for Your Life and Career

Hi,

Thanks for the e-mails. I do enjoy your writing. Your words are open and honest. Write me more and often.


I forgot the things I told you, such as how much effort it takes for a girl to look beautiful. Yet, so many guys think nothing about their looks and hygiene when they are chasing the pretty girls. What exactly does that guy have to offer the girl, his bad breath?

I disagree with you. I think it is okay for anyone who wants to look their best to use any means, even visiting the plastic surgeons. If they don't over do it and the end result is beauty rather than looking horrific. I know John Kerry did the Botox during his presidential campaign. Even Bin Ladden (??) dyed his beard, for some one living in the cave, that is over doing it.

My assistant Tim, told me I dress too comfortable during my travels and I should always think of my appearance and my public image.Well, like you I too have "good reasons" why I don't look my best during my travels. When I fly, I dress for "emergency" situations, just in case.... I wear cotton t-shirt, cotton coat with a hood to protect my face in case of fire and very comfortable baggy pants in cotton, wool or silk plus no heal shoes for a fast escape. Further more, often I have to get up at 2.30 am and leave the house at 3.45 am to catch the first fly in the morning. At 3 a.m. I don't feel like to get "pretty up".

When my Limo driver pick me up yesterday we said, "you looked very nice when that time I took me to S.F. for a speech at the convention center." Yes, I was all dressed up and made up. I think he was given me a hint, I should always look my best good. I know this was not a sexual remark. He mean it. When I do public speaking I wear couture(??) suits. I was told I am the best dressed speaker in the professional speaking industry.

I respect anyone who is willing to devote him or her to looking good for Everyone and at any time. Looking good all the time is a long term personal and career commitment and it does help you pay the bills. As I wrote in my book "The Art of War for Women" chapter 6.2 "Your personal makeover: Let your style support your career." Your first line of defense and offense is your style of dress. According to study, people treat you better, when you dress well. You dress for what you want to be not what you are. I have to rethink my clothes strategy for traveling, I need safety, comfort and good look.

More on Chinese Food

Tuesday 04 September 2007 at 10:51 pm Sept 4, 2007

More on Chinese Food

The Chinese government has officially translated 2753 kinds of Chinese dishes. We have to say goodbye to all the fun and brilliant translations such as “Chicken without Sexual Life” and “Red Burned Lion Head”.

The new translation for “Chicken without Sexual Life” is “Spring Chicken” and “Red Burned Lion Head” is translated as “Stewed Port Ball in Brown Sauce”. The Four Happy Meatballs, as we mentioned a couple days ago, have now officially become “Four-Joy Meatballs”.

Too bad, I just love the old version so much better.

LOOKING FOR FRIENDSHIP WHERE IT IS NOT

Monday 03 September 2007 at 10:49 pm Sept 3, 2007 Diary

LOOKING FOR FRIENDSHIP WHERE IT IS NOT

For the past twenty years I have visited Asia regularly. During this time I have collected some friends. Many of them pretend to be a friend and metamorphosis into what they think a devoted friend should be. I watched them, it was like watching bad actor doing their play . In my life I have some real friends in the United States, yet finding a couple of real friends among the Asian has not been easy. May be I just haven’t gotten lucky.

I know most people are looking for utility value among friends. Somehow, in my heart, I am always hoping their affection is true and real.

I have been seeking answers these past months, may be something is very wrong with me so I can not inspire their true love and affection. After searching within me and reaching out physically to them I came up with the answer.

The problem is that I am looking for true friendship where it is not. When one doesn’t know how to love oneself how can she know how to love others? When they don’t have it in them how can they give what they don’t have to others.

Why am I looking for love, devotion, and true support beyond their capability? Most friends, Chinese call , “wine and meat friends”, which means they are good at drinking and eating with you. How true this is.

I have a lot of readers and business acquaintances, yet I interact with only very few friends. I realized, not having friends is my Dharma----my journey at this time of my life. This is what I have to master ----being in solitude. I need to master the journey of being a good friend to myself.